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Changes

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It’s amazing how sometimes we can see things with such clarity, confidence, and excitement, and other times be struck with fear, apprehension, and indecision. If this is sounding a little bit like bipolar disorder, that’s not what I’m getting at. It’s not an extreme fluctuation in mood and emotion, but rather a fluctuation in outlook and attitude towards things. The difference, I think, is that what I’m talking about is dependent on outside factors that infringe upon us, rather than internal insecurities and fears that run rampant, as is the case with bipolar disorder (this is all coming from someone who has never had bipolar disorder – I am simply trying to point out what the difference is, in my humble opinion).

So how do we compensate for this vast difference in outlook, which can affect our lives in such dramatic ways? For example, it can affect how much (or how little) we choose to go after a career, how we choose to approach relationships and people we care about, how we treat others based on how we feel about ourselves, etc. It’s hard to find that middle ground, realize when we’re there, and are at a point where we can make decisions and move forward  from that unbiased position with the most clarity we can hope to have. It truly might be impossible to realize when we’re at that point, so we can’t necessarily wait to reach that point. We might just have to go for it.

Her

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Her transported me to a different place, as movies often do, but I literally felt different when I walked out of the theater. The quaint street that the local, independent movie theater is on and the people strolling about seemed different to me, and as I got into the car and drove home I felt a tiny sense of transformation – not in a significant personal way, but like the world around me had transformed. It hadn’t, of course, but the film’s futuristic setting stayed with me after the film as I left the theater. Instances like these when your perception is changed and things just don’t feel right, even if not in a bad way, are bizarre. I felt refreshed and intrigued by this new world that I had just experienced.

Theodore’s relationship with a character who doesn’t have a physical presence reiterates the fact that even when we are in a relationship with someone or have people in our lives, we are still fundamentally alone. He is obviously physically alone, but also emotionally unfulfilled even though he is in a relationship of sorts. So for me, this doesn’t so much speak to loneliness as it does to aloneness, which is such an intrinsic part of our nature. But it also captures intimacy in a unique and genuine way that is compelling and leads you to think about whether or not one actually needs physical intimacy in a relationship. Jaoquin Phoenix who plays the role of Theodore carries the film very well and keeps you intrigued the whole way through even though so much of the film is centered on him and him alone.

I loved the movie. Although the premise sounds superficial, it exhibits real human emotions and challenges in a genuine way and transports you to a different kind of world.